• Etinosa J Ogbevoen

KCMO | 1 year completed!

I honestly cannot believe that it has been a year since I moved to Kansas City. We all know the saying, "Time flies when you're having fun!" Truly moving to Kansas City has been a roller coaster. I had this idea that moving to a new city was going to be exhilarating and the best thing that could've happened to me. Both of those things are not wrong but it came in a way I was not expecting at.

For starters I was absolutely miserable living alone. I had always longed to live by myself. After living with my family for 18 years and then roommates for another 4 years I was ready to finally have some space to myself. Living alone definitely was the biggest transition. There was no one to talk and I didn't have a roommate to do random things with anymore. There were days that I felt depressed because I was so lonely. Work was also an adjustment to get used to. Everything was brand new to me and the way everything started I had to hit the ground running with barely any tools. It was a struggle to say the least.

As the year progressed I faded from myself. I didn't have anyone to keep me accountable and motivate me to be the best version of myself. I started to sink and act out of character. I went through a pretty bad breakup and honestly that was the wake up call that I needed. I needed to take control of me. I needed to stop giving myself excuses to make bad decisions. During my first year in Kansas City I hit rock bottom. I was confused about my relationship. I was confused about my future. I was just confused about who I was. When 2017 hit I made a Intentions board and that really helped redirect my life in the right direction. It helped me see what I wanted to do and achieve. Some of the stuff on the board are simple like drinking more water or thinking more positively. Seeing that board up in my apartment everyday has truly made me aware of my actions and evaluate if I'm doing things that will get me to the next level.

The first year was not all bad. I grew to love the space and the peace I got from living alone. I got to decorate my apartment to my liking. I was able to change things around all the time to fit my mood. I was able to do a lot of reflecting about who I wanted to be and where I was going in life. Moving to KC made me realize that I had to push myself out of my comfort zone if I wanted to continue toy grow.

Being out of school for this year actually really motivated me to figuring how I can go back to school. You learn a lot about the world and how it operates. You see how certain things affect other things and you start to figure out what you really believe in. You start to find your passion. It's incredible what a year can do for personal growth.

If I can give any advice, I'd say living alone is a must, at least for a year. Yes, I miss being around people 24/7 sometimes. But now that I'm used to being in my space, I can honestly say it will be very hard for me to want to have a roommate again.

Thank you Kansas City for being my first big girl city. Thank you for teaching me that I can persevere even at low times. Thank you for pushing me to find myself. Thank you for reinforcing that I can do anything I put my mind to. Unfortunately this will be the last post for the KCMO series but I'm so excited to announce that I am pushing through and starting closETI.

closETI is a combination for wardrobe consolation service that I will be providing to people all over. I love meeting new people and creating that person connection. I have spent years trying master my style and figuring out what I like when it comes to clothes. Once I was confident in my fashion sense I say that people sought out for me to help them create outfits that executed what they were envisioning. Sometimes you just need that one girlfriend to help to raise to the next level when it comes to clothes. Make sure you look out for our first contest. 3 lucky people will be able to try out the closETI services!