• Etinosa J Ogbevoen

This is 25 | Lessons to being content with where you are in life.

I have officially reached a quarter of my life. How crazy! I have been telling people that I never really imagined what life would be life at 25. Not that I wouldn't make it to this age but I never thought about what my life would look. I mean as a little girl I thought maybe I would have a good man and I'd be in a serious relationship leading to some type of marriage. Maybe I'd be jet setting around the world and living lavish. I have no idea what I thought life would be but I'm here now and honestly very content. Here are some of the life lessons I learned along my life journey to be content with where I am today.

(Also, I'm including some of the pictures from my birthday because... I looked bomb.com not going to lie)

Social Media can make or break you... if you let it.

Most of you are probably just like me and social media is a big part of your life. I'm to the point where when I first wake up it's one the first things that I look at. I have a scrolling problem, okay I said it! As someone who consumes media constantly and follows people I aspire to be it can get overwhelming seeing how people are living their lives. Social media is the best place to be be nosy without people judging you. We all know most people post their highs of life which if you're not careful makes you feel like crap if you're at a low point in life. I suggest that if you're a social media junky like me, clap for others successes but remember that they had to go through trials and tribulations, long nights, tears and struggles to reap the benefits of the highs they are showcasing.

Understand your Self-Worth

So the concept of self-worth is not a foreign idea to me but I never took the time to develop it until my heart was in shambles from a breakup and I was dating i started dating without a purpose. It was the first time I was dating as an adult and I quickly realized that the energy you put out will attract certain type of people. I knew I was a QUEEN, but baby I was not attracting Kings or even good friends. I didn't understand what was going on until I took the time to work on myself. I found out that I didn't have very high standards or true boundaries. I didn't know what I was willing to allow in my life. So i took the time to learn about myself. I spent a lot of time alone and doing things that made me truly happy. I wrote down actions and analyzed how certain things made me feel and if I was going to tolerate them from someone else. I worked on my flaws and tried everyday to improve myself. I gave myself grace when I messed up but promised to do better next time. I become unbothered and happy with who I was. I forgave myself for past mistakes and found the silver lining to being by myself.

Get some good friends.

I personally keep my friend group small. That doesn't mean I don't have friends, it just means that the people that I confide in and exert my energy towards are very few. Friendships are also a relationship and they can be toxic and draining. Analyze the people who you consider friends and how they make yo feel. At the end of the day you don't owe anyone anything so if you need to distance yourself from them or completely drop, please be strong enough to do so. Peace of mind and emotional sanity are crucial when growing into yourself. They will be your biggest cheerleaders and sound board when life is happening.

Learn to be reflective and give yourself grace.

This is probably the biggest lesson that I'm thankful for. Being reflective and introspective have brought a sense of peace when it feels like life is not going the way I want it to go. I get overwhelmed thinking about homework assignments, job duties, and family obligations, and needing to go to the gym and the list goes on and on. The days that i hit rock bottom, I sit there I start conting my blessings. It's a horrible feeling to think that you're not doing enough or that you are not enough. You are exactly where you need to be today. Thinking happy thoughts is easier said than done and it takes real effort to convince yourself that tomorrow is going to be better. That you will reach your goals and make your dreams a reality. We beat ourselves up the hardest and that is detrimental to progress. Understand that where you are today may not be ideal but it's necessary and that you will persevere and be the best you possible.

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